Every year people set their goals and, without realizing it, they struggle to have a relationship with them.

Gary Keller says that the purpose of a goal is not to achieve a result but to appropriate being in the moment; it’s a compass to help you identify how you have to behave today so that you’re in alignment with where you want to go. But before we can find alignment, we have to have clarity on our core values.

Cathryn Lavery is the co-found of BestSelf Co., and she joined us at our goal-setting retreat last year with her fiance Emily Colman. By attending, not only did they figure out what their vision for their lives looked like together but they figured out what their core values were. And as it turned out, these values transformed their alignment in an unprecedented year.