94. Why You’re Harming Your Most Valuable Relationships | Lewis Howes

Nov 27, 2017 | 0 comments

Everyone has at least one person who truly matters to them… and many of us are doing ONE thing that is harming that relationship.   In The ONE Thing, Gary and Jay lay out the seven most important areas of your life: spirituality, physical health, personal, relationships, job, business, and finances. We often set goals around our jobs, businesses, and finances… but those are rubber balls, and if we drop them they can bounce back. Spirituality, physical health, personal life, and relationships are glass balls – if you drop one of them, it will shatter.   Lewis Howes is the New York Times Bestselling author of The School of Greatness and The Mask of Masculinity, and he joins the show to share why you are hurting your most valuable relationships and the ONE thing you can do to turn it all around.  

We recorded this conversation as part of our monthly ONE Thing webinar series. Every month, we feature an incredible author so that you can learn directly from them and ask questions. If you want to sign up for our next FREE monthly webinar, head over to the1thing.com/webinars.   Time is running out! Join us for our first live event: What: The ONE Thing Goal-Setting Retreat When: November 30th, 2017 – December 1st, 2017 Where: Austin, Texas How: the1thing.com/event    

The ONE Thing to Implement From This Episode:

Lewis suggests you start by asking yourself this question: On a scale of 1 to 10, where am I at in my career, my intimate relationships, and my health?   Focus in on just one of those areas and ask yourself: what is the ONE thing I can do to improve that area this week?  

In this episode you will learn…

  • [8:10] How to make your relationships & conversations more meaningful to others.
  • [12:25] How masculinity can distort the way you express yourself (and, ultimately, harm others).
  • [16:50] The key to success, in life and relationships.
  • [18:00] How both men and women can identify when they’re wearing masks, and then break past them.
  • [26:50] How you can balance thriving in work and at home.
  • [37:10] Why waiting to express yourself is one of the biggest mistakes that you can make in a relationship.
  • [42:00] How you can support your loved ones when they are wearing a mask.  


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Links & Tools From This Episode

  • Learn more with Lewis: LewisHowes.com | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube
  • Listen to The School of Greatness podcast  
  • The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives  

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